What is responsible choice?

As we follow our feelings, we become aware of the different parts of ourself, and the different things they want. We cannot have them all at once as many of them conflict. The part of us that wants a bigger house/more money will conflict with the part of us that suffers with the poor and the hungry. When we satisfy one part of ourselves another goes unsatisfied. The fulfillment of one part creates anguish in another, or others, and we are torn.
Just as an experimenter in quantum physics cannot produce the experience of waves from physical light and the experience of particles from physical light at the same time, and must choose which experience he or she will create, so you, also, as you shape nonphysical light must choose which experience you will create.
A responsible choice is a choice that takes into account the consequences of each of our choices. In order to make a responsible choice we must ask ourself, for each choice we are considering, ""What will this produce? Do I really want to create it? Am I ready to accept all of the consequences of this choice?" We need to project ourselves into the probable future that will unfold with each choice that we are considering. Do this not with the energy of intention, but simply to test the water, to get the feel for what we are considering creating. See how it feels and ask ourselves if this is really what we want.
When we consciously invoke growing, consciously invoke wisdom, we consciously invoke parts of ourselves that are hot whole to come to the foreground of our lives. With each recurrence of anger, or jealousy, or fear, we are given the choice to challenge it, or give into it. Each time we challenge it, it loses power and we gain

Striking the right balance between our physical and spiritual aspects is one of the
most challenging aspects of existence. We are dual beings by nature, spiritual
entities bound to earth by physical bodies. In our lifetimes, we are charged with
the duty of nurturing and tending both with equal devotion and love. Yet while both
aspects of the self are deserving of honor and respect, there is a tendency for
people who are more spiritually focused to ignore, avoid, or dismiss their bodies.
Similarly, many individuals are entirely ensconced in the carnal realm and pay no
attention to the needs of the soul. In both cases, an adjustment is in order. We are
whole only to the degree that we embrace both sides of our beings.
If the soul is the inward manifestation of our consciousness, the body is the
living, breathing expression of that consciousness. The physical self provides the
home in which the spiritual self takes root and flourishes. Just as we must tend to
the seed of the soul to ensure that it grows strong, so, too, must we care for the
protective shell that is the body to make certain it is capable of playing its role
in our development. Though there will no doubt be times in our lives when we feel
more comfortable focusing on the spiritual self or the physical self, denying the
fundamental importance of one or the other can lead to ill health, emotional
distress, and a sense of incompleteness. Both facets of the human experience play a
vital role in our well-being. 
The body and the soul are the yin and yang of our current reality. They are, at this
point of human evolution, irreparably bound together, and many spiritual teachers
agree that the body is one of the greatest vehicles through which to access the
soul. In fact, many believe that our spirit has chosen to be embodied as an
essential part of our spiritual development. Consequently, it is the responsibility
of each person on the planet to forge a marriage between the two, so that these
disparate aspects bring out the best in each other, creating a vibrant, dynamic, and
workable whole.