Your Most Vital Commitment

Within each of there is a well of energy that must be regularly replenished. When we
act as if this well is bottomless, scheduling a long list of activities that fit
like puzzle pieces into every minute of every day, it becomes depleted and we feel
exhausted, disconnected, and weak. Refilling this well is a matter of finding time
to focus on, nurture, and care for ourselves, or "you time." Most of us are, at
different times throughout the day, a spouse, a friend, a relative, an employee, a
parent, or a volunteer, which means that down time, however relaxing in nature, is
not necessarily "you time." Though some people will inevitably look upon "you time"
as being selfish, it is actually the polar opposite of selfishness. We can only
excel where our outer world affairs are concerned when our own spiritual, physical,
and intellectual needs are fulfilled.
Recognizing the importance of "you time" is far easier than finding a place for it
in an active, multifaceted lifestyle, however. Even if you find a spot for it in
your agenda, you may be dismayed to discover that your thoughts continuously stray
into worldly territory. To make the most of "you time," give yourself enough time on
either side of the block of time you plan to spend on yourself to ensure that you do
not feel rushed. Consider how you would like to pass the time, forgetting for the
moment your obligations and embracing the notion of renewal. You may discover that
you are energized by creative pursuits, guided meditation, relaxing activities
during which your mind can wander, or modes of expression such as writing.
Even if you have achieved a functioning work-life balance, you may still be
neglecting the most important part of that equation: you. "You time" prepares you
for the next round of daily life, whether you are poised to immerse yourself in a
professional project or chores around the home. It also affords you a unique
opportunity to learn about yourself, your needs, and your tolerances in a concrete
way. As unimportant as "you time" can sometimes seem, it truly is crucial to your
wellbeing because it ensures that you are never left without the energy to give of
yourself.